Girls who grew up without fathers have had it a little rough. There’s nothing in the world quite like it: a father-daughter relationship. Unfortunately, we’ve missed out on that beautiful gift, and there are some things that we’d like you to know:
1. Father’s Day is a sensitive day.
Yup. Father’s Day is just around the corner. As much as we may all say that Father’s Day is just another day – because we’ve never really had anything to celebrate – it’s actually kind of a tough day for us.
Pictures flood our newsfeeds, statuses about Dads, and Daddies, and Fathers pop up, and families dine and brunch outside our houses; each man we see has a little girl with stars in her eyes looking up, swinging on his arm, enamored by his love.
2. So is our wedding day.
I’m not one to dwell on weddings, and fluff, and diamond rings; however, having our father walk us down the aisle has always sort of been a little fantasy of ours, hasn’t it?
We’ve flirted with the idea of another important man walking us down, or perhaps a brother or uncle, but something is still just not the same as our father completing this mission on our special day.
3. We like male attention.
This one is a tough one. As much as we may not want to admit it, because we don’t like the way it sounds, we should all try to take a step back and evaluate the relationships in our lives.
We surround ourselves with guys – romantically, platonically, and intimately – because somewhere deep down it’s comforting for us to have men around. This may or may not’ve made us guys girls over the years; regardless, we’ve got a slew of male friends – each one filling a tiny piece of the void that we’re all missing.
4. We are stronger than most other girls.
Growing up without a father wasn’t easy on any of us: we were pretty much rejected from day one. We had to battle the feeling of abandonment during the early years, and without a male figure to set an example of how we are supposed to be loved, we really had to solve this deprivation on our own.
This, in turn, has made us independent, strong, and flat out fierce because, really, we figured it out for ourselves.
5. We may not let our guard down right away.
We are a little extra wary when it comes to letting men into our hearts. But, that is by nomeans saying that we don’t let them in, or we don’t have big hearts.
Men have learned that we may put up a tough exterior, but at the end of the day we are really just big puddles of love.
6. When we do love, we love with our whole entire hearts.
There is no middle ground with us: you’re either in or you’re out. And when you’re in, we really give all the love in the world.
As Audrey Hepburn once put it, I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.